Don't say nothing

I want to tell you
What has happened to me
I want the world to know
The silent killer of uterine/endometrial cancer
Because maybe one day scientists will discover
The early warning signs.
But when I tell you
I have Stage 4 cancer
You don't need to say:
You are so brave - I'm not
You don't look sick - I am
My great aunt had Stage 4 cancer and lived to 95 - good on her
Have you tried a juicing diet? A protein diet?
You just have to be positive - fuck off
You need to find God - I don't
But don't say NOTHING either
Don't avoid me because you don't know what to say
I need you to say
'It's absolute crap what's happened to you',
And then treat me as you normally would
The champagne's in the fridge

Going to the market on Saturday
All the familiar faces
Who do I tell?
It's so exhausting
To cope with the well-intentioned responses
So I shrivel up and come home



Comments

  1. Anonymous26 May 2018 at 16:35

    Wishing I could hug you tight right now. Anger, grief, despair - all part of the whole picture. So unfair. Hang on to Digs and help each other. Value every moment.

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  2. Anonymous27 May 2018 at 09:01

    Very true.

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  3. Leslie1 June 2018 at 18:25

    Dear Alison, Dont know how I missed this and what was happening, cannot believe whats going on.
    I think of you, your grin and wit, and know you are shitty with the situation, but you endeavour and forge on.
    Look forward to seeing you at the Mossie markets, xxx

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